If we were to ignore the need to return another's initial favor, we would stop one reciprocal sequence dead and make it less likely that our benefactor would do such favors in the future. Neither event is in the best interests of society. Consequently, we
Robert B Cialdini's Influence - Science and Practice>Influence Science and Practice
Robert B. Cialdini
4th edition 2001 >Ch 2 Reciprocation>the rules of reciprocation - one of the most potent of the weapons of influence>Reciprocation can trigger unequal exchanges>because reciprocal arrangements are so vital in human social systems, we have been conditioned to feel uncomfortable when beholden.>
Map Branches
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Ch 1 - Weapons of Influence
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Click whirr - preprogrammed responses to triggers
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Dr. Ellen Langer - providing a justifying or legitimizing (and reasonable reason) with or before a request to another person, will dramatically increase the likely-hood of the receiver complying with the request. (Langer, Blank & Chanowitz, 1978)
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"...automatic, stereotyped behavior is prevalent in much human action, because in many cases, it is the most efficient form of behaving (Gigenzer & Goldstein, 1996), and in other cases it is simply necessary (Bodenhausen, Macrae, & Sherman 1999, Fiske & N
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Ch 2 Reciprocation
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Ch 3 Commitment and Consistency
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Our desire to act, perform, or present ourselves or our appearances as consistent with earlier actions, statements, beliefs.
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"Once we make a choice or take a stand, we will encounter personal and interpersonal pressures to behave consistency with that commitment.
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consistency is a powerful motive because is considered valuable by society
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Inconsistency is commonly thought to be an undesirable trait - persons with inconsistent, discordant, or otherwise inconsistent beliefs, spoken words, actions, and morals, is seen as confused, two faced or even mentally ill or "off."
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Persons with consistent beliefs, actions, statements, morals - consistency - are usually associated with positive elements or values such as personal and intellectual strength, the critical elements of logic, rationality, stability and honesty.
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Autopilot "Quick Fix"
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Mechanical Consistency "Foolish Fortress"
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Fear
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Commitment is the key.
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Self Image - if image is discordant to actions and, to a lesser degree, statements, our desire for consistency will compel us to action or selective intake of information.
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Extra Effort = Extra Value = Greater Commitment
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Inner Consistency
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Growing Legs to Stand On
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Ch. 4 Social Proof - Truths are Us
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Ch. 5 - Liking : The Friendly Thief
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Ch. 6 - Authority : Directed Deference
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Ch. 7 - Scarcity: The Rule of the Few
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Ch. 8 - Instant Influencers: Primitive Consent for an Automatic Age
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